Wednesday, March 31, 2010

What's in a Song?

I had an interesting conversation with our newest family member on the ride to school this morning. He was listening to his iPod without headphones so I was able to hear the lyrics pretty clearly (instead of just squeaky noise with a heavy base). The rapper’s lyrics included the “N” word in almost every verse. I asked him what he thought about that. Didn’t it bother him to be referred to by such a degrading term? He is half African American and half Puerto Rican. He admitted that it bothered him a bit. I asked if he understood the history of the word, that it was used by whites as a way to degrade, disgrace, humiliate and dehumanize an entire race of people. He just nodded and shrugged at the same time. I suggested that it was a bit odd that people were not only listening to these insults but were actually paying money to be insulted. His response was a puzzled expression. I explained that I found it very offensive and that perhaps the rappers could use a good history lesson. I don’t know if our brief conversation will inspire him to immediately stop listening to those songs but I hope it at least gave him something to think about.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Why Blog?

I am the other half of Mama Drama Times Two—the less articulate half for sure. I’m not yet clear on what this Blog will turn out to be. A place for musings and reflections, a way to leave comments on other blogs, a way to participate in some of the “photo contests” on other blogs, or way to start the journaling I’m supposed to be doing for my Spiritual Formation class. Probably all of that—why limit the possibilities!

I have been following several blogs for a while and am humbly impressed with the women (including Mama Drama) who so eloquently express the pain, frustration, joy, wonder, grief, enjoyment, anger, exhilaration, and passion that comes with parenting children with extreme trauma histories. I have been drinking in the wisdom and trying to add it to our cache of reactions, strategies and interventions. I often ask myself, “what would so and so do?” So, to all you so and so’s out there in the blogosphere, THANKS.